Foreplay

At one of my recent dinner parties, (and I’ve been told no one gives dinner parties anymore—except I still do) after serving dessert, I overheard one of my guests say to his spouse of sixty years,
“You look especially lovely this evening.”
She was lovely, however, it was her reply that impressed me.
“Thank you for the verbal foreplay,” she said, as she smiled and gazed into his eyes.
They were seated on either side of me and I could feel the energy crossing the table and connecting their twinkling eyes.

Wow! Verbal foreplay, for them, is sexual foreplay. And then I realized, they’re both the same thing. By titillating one other, as they frequently did, they kept their sexual spark alive; their relationship energized. William Blake said, “Energy is eternal delight.”

Sexuality, (a delightful topic) isn’t merely a genital act that takes place; it is a power, a force that is with us all the time. It involves the whole body, mind, heart and spirit. Most profoundly, it’s an act of opening up to one another, a sharing of energies. Nature doesn’t ask you to be a certain way: it shows you how you are. Verbal foreplay consists of overlooking the down-side and finding something really uplifting to say to a significant other. It often doesn’t matter if what you say is an outrageous lie, the receiver will believe and cherish it.

Verbal foreplay is one way that sexual energy is endlessly available wherever you are, whatever you’re doing and whoever you enjoy being with.